And then your child bit my child…

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I once bit my brother.  In the rage of our argument, I grabbed his arm and tucked my sharp milk teeth into his chocolate skin.  My teeth didn’t sink into his flesh like I thought it would.  In fact, I think it was worst for me than for him.  Sure, he was bitten, but I had the aftertaste of blood in my mouth and the worlds biggest hiding later that day when daddy got home.  That was the first and the last time I bit.  It hurt.  All of it for that matter.

I think my child is an angel, on the playground she is not. My child doesn’t bite, but this spirited little girl slaps.  She tried it with me a few times.  I would grab her hand in motion, and glare at her with my evil eye and issue a warning.   She still does it from time to time and I reprimand her every time.

She came home last week with a bite mark on her arm.  I was informed what had happened, and I was horrified.  My toddler, who is not even two yet, now has a bite mark on her arm?  I could clearly see the teeth marks, and this upset me more. I felt pain, anger and so sorry for my daughter.  I also felt guilty for not being there when it happened.  Do I call the parent ? I tried to stay calm.

I went through all the motions.  If this was my child bitting others;  Would I own up to it? Would I call the parent and apologize, would I give my toddler a warning or a hiding and would I say anything at all.  I’m disappointed that the parents didn’t reach out to us.  We are all on a WhatsApp group and they could have just said something…anything?

At toddler age they can’t speak very well and I am sure they are really frustrated. So some bite, slap, shout and others throw tantrums.  I asked some experts about this. I am told;

“Try, “that’s biting, that’s wrong” or a firm “no”. If you’re in a group, remove them from the situation. Explain that it hurts others and why you don’t like them doing it. Teach them to express themselves: When things have calmed down, try to help your child find a less painful way to express their feelings”

Also, Most parenting blogs and sites explains that you need to remove the biter from the situation.  a 30 second time out feels like eternity for a toddler.  Also, to let him/her apologize with a ” sorry” and if he/she doesn’t talk yet, apologize with a gentle pat on their back.

In my case, When your kid’s the bitee

  • Wash the bite with soap and water right away, even if the skin’s not broken. If there’s even a little bleeding, apply antibiotic ointment and cover with a bandage. Actual deep puncture wound? Call the doctor; she may prescribe an antibiotic.
  • Keep an eye out for signs of infection, such as redness or swelling at the bite site, or a fever.

Now lets hold thumbs for a good week.  Marilyn Monroe said ” Dogs never bite me. Just humans”…..She was so right.

 

Love

EAB

x

2 Comments

2 Comments on And then your child bit my child…

  1. heatherss@gmail.com'
    Heather Step
    April 3, 2017 at 7:49 pm (8 months ago)

    As a toddler teacher we have a lot of this because the kids can’t talk, they get frustrated. Push, push, push bite.. I see it right in front of me. I do take them out and tell them “no, no, no, we don’t bite our friends”. And we have to tell the parents. (You should have been told) But honestly, it is an age thing. This too shall pass.

  2. leeannoelofse@gmail.com'
    Lee-Ann Oelofse
    March 5, 2017 at 5:37 pm (9 months ago)

    I think you a wonderful mommy. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Have a lovely evening further and a Blessed week 😀

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