It’s not only New Year, it’s already the third week of January! *shrieks* How did this happen? OK, quick stock take…uhm, so far I’ve learned how to “dab” in 2018 (more on this later).
“So, Elana, what have you done with yourself so far today then?” I question myself.
Well, I picked up LEGOs five times. Right now I’m watching SABC news and there’s a fire. People are scared and homeless. My toddler is back at school (*ugly cry*) and she cried for me. So of course, I too cried in the car…AGAIN!
My eldest is going to High school and “res”. I’m a stepmom, but I’ve raised her, so goodness knows she is mine and she is going to a hostel. So yes, I’m happy for her and sad for me; all at the same time.I’ve reached for a glass of wine, but it tastes bitter. I shouldn’t have had that chewing gum earlier, so now I can’t even have a decent glass of wine. And now on top of it I’m wasting good wine too. But OK – this is not a blog about wine, so let’s continue…
With the New Year being here and already overwhelming me, every time I think about it, I either want to run back to 2017 like Speedy Gonzales (remember him?) or towards the end of 2018 and sigh a huge sigh of relief, stating: “YES…We’ve done it! Well done team. Well done kids. Well done hubby. And of course, well done, Elana!” In a business meeting today (oh yes, I forgot I was productive on that one), a super incredibly dynamic person mentioned to me that 2017 was a “character building” year. And that, here it comes…*drumroll*…if your surroundings are unstable, you can’t expected to produce a stable product. Boom! That is so valuable! Well, I think so anyway…
And as I mentioned, I now know how to dab. What is it? It’s a dance that makes you look super young. Watch it here:
So, as I’m generally always a positive person, I have one big solution that might give us all that victorious “I won the Comrades this year” feeling in 2018 – not the actual race, just the sentiment, as we all run our own Comrades Marathons one way or another in life. The solution is a piece by Tim Ferriss. He is one of my husband, Ian’s, most favourite podcast producers and hosts. He established this: if you look at who literally “wasted your time” in 2017, simply don’t give them the same chance and time of day during 2018. Make important decisions instead about who you should surround yourself with. He says:
- Grab a notepad and create two columns: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE.
- Go through your calendar from the last year, looking at every week.
- For each week, jot down on the pad any people and activities that triggered peak positive or negative emotions for that month.
- Once you’ve gone through the past year, look at your notepad list and ask “What 20% of each column produced the most reliable or powerful peaks?”
- Based on the answers, take your “positive” leaders and schedule more of them in 2018. Get them on the calendar now! Book things with friends and prepay for shit now! That’s step one. Step two is to take your “negative” leaders, put “NOT-TO-DO LIST” at the top, and put them somewhere you can see them each morning for the first few weeks of 2018. These are the people and things you *know* make you miserable, so don’t put them on your calendar out of obligation, guilt, FOMO, or other nonsense.
You see, it’s actually easy peasy. BUT you’re going to have to do some research and go back into your diary or digital calendar (or whatever you use to document your appointments in). Based on Tim Ferriss’ theory, this year I’m seeing my husband, family, my children and a few crazy and exciting people that I would like to share some exciting news, goodies and time with. That’s good enough for me, thank you very much. And I SHALL choose well. So, join me in raising a glass to 2018 (I’m now drinking some juice instead), because this HAS to be the best year ever. Let’s all kick some serious butt…and “dab” like there’s no tomorrow.